Author: Jeannie Norris
Foster & Adopt
Triangle and Pitt County Areas | Are you interested in fostering or adopting?
We have information sessions to answer your questions.
• What it means to be a foster parent.
• What the training & licensing process is all about.
• What types of children are referred to our foster care / adoption program.
• Dates for our next MAPP training class.
Our Next Virtual Session – click dates for details
• Tuesday, May 9, 6 to 7:30 p.m.
Required:
• Click to fill out our Foster Parent Screening Form; please use Chrome or Firefox browsers.
We will follow up within 24 hours of receiving your entry.
On A Mission
Some people are called step *into* crisis situations – to help, to comfort, when it’s easier to turn away. And we are lucky to have so many working for us.
Because we know they will do the right thing. Every day. Even the hardest day.
Sharon Singletary* and her staff are fluent in crisis management. They run our four Crisis & Assessment Centers, including the one in Asheville.
So Friday night – counting the hours since our Asheville center lost contact – Sharon stayed awake in her Winston-Salem home thinking about the kids she couldn’t reach. By morning, she knew what she had to do.
She and her husband, Brian, were going west: “I said, ‘We’ve got a Suburban. We’ll go pick them up. We’ve got to go get those kids.’ ”
The trip took over four hours, but they made it to Asheville. They found the kids outside grilling their lunch and, instead of the two staff they were expecting, they found five who had shown up to keep the kids busy, comforted, and safe. Drinking water was low; power was out – and everybody was relieved to see Sharon and Brian walk up.
“We told the kids to get their clothes. Let’s roll,” Sharon says. “They gathered up their little backpacks and they loaded up in the car, and then we hit the road. We didn’t make any wrong turns. It’s amazing. The Lord, he helped us.”
They rolled down I-26 just as the state issued a do-not-enter alert for drivers headed to Western North Carolina.
It’s gratifying to see our staff work together to get kids to safety – but difficult knowing that many of these children are from areas devastated by the storm.
In the Franklin home, kids are learning their hometowns were demolished – the roads they grew up on have been washed away. Even teens in our Raleigh and New Bern transitional living homes are waiting for word from family back in Western North Carolina.
They all will need our support and prayers. “If there was ever a time to pray, it’s now,” Sharon says. “It is now.”
*Sharon is our Director of Assessment Center Services
Storm Update
The images and stories coming out of Western North Carolina are hard to take in. We are heartbroken by the loss of life and the devastation of homes and livelihoods caused by Hurricane Helene.
Our Asheville Crisis & Assessment Center and Franklin Group Home were both in the path of the storm. But we have good news:
All children in our care are safe; all employees are accounted for.
Even so, our children and families need your prayers – there is a long road ahead. Some of our children are from areas that were demolished; they’ve been unable to talk to their families.
Our home in Franklin initially avoided damage, but the community is now dealing with mudslides.
Our center in Asheville has power and is accessible. We have opened it to distribute food and other donated items to staff, their families, neighbors, and Department of Public Safety staff in need.
We gave out the first round of supplies on Monday and staff wept. They had run out of water earlier in the day.
Thank you for your prayers and support.
Baby goats! No kidding
It’s A Love Story
Billy and Peggy are two of our favorites! Always happy to share their memories of the place they grew up – Methodist Orphanage, as we were known then! – they have a national platform for their sweet story just in time for Valentine’s Day.
Guardian Angel Society
Welcome to the newest members of our Guardian Angel Society – the people whose big hearts have led them to make extraordinary gifts of time and resources to children and families.
Apex United Methodist Church is the embodiment of faith in action – a force for good, living fully into John Wesley’s vision that “the world is our parish.” Its ministries number in the dozens to help and comfort people who are grieving, sick, homeless, hungry, imprisoned, and lonely. So it goes without saying that we have a very special connection to Apex United Methodist.
This church has opened its heart to us whenever we have called – and that includes the congregation, the Sunday School classes, the Circles – United Methodist Women and Men. They never fail to step up. They have helped us with foster care events, Christmas gifts, journey bags, vacation bible school collections – you name it.
Apex United Methodist is a 14-year sponsor of our winter gala and a true community partner with us, serving vulnerable children and their families.
Rachel and Albert Blackmon of Cary were introduced to Methodist Home for Children when they attended our winter gala in 2015. Just 6 months later, as it turned out, Albert joined our board of directors.
It doesn’t usually happen that fast, but Albert came to us with a unique and valuable skill set. A data scientist at SAS, his work with the state of Florida demonstrated how analytics can improve and save the lives of children in the juvenile justice and foster care systems.
So Albert brought to the board his analytical skills and passion for helping children, serving on our research and review committee and investing untold hours over 8 years in the operations and future success of Methodist Home for Children.
Albert now manages a SAS sales team covering 4 states. And Rachel – a former middle school educator – volunteers at the schools of their 2 children – and their church, Kirk of Kildaire Presbyterian.
Both Albert and Rachel are loyal to the children and families in need of our care, and we are grateful for their support.
Molly and John Chiles of Raleigh are longtime supporters of our work. Parents of three – they’ve leaned hard into our mission of serving children and families, having adopted from the Methodist Home in their home state of Ohio.
The Chiles moved away from Ohio to Raleigh to enjoy their retirement years. John is a retired physician. Molly is a former educator with a strong interest in the arts, having served on the board of Toledo’s Museum of Art. She and John are avid art collectors and they earned national kudos for their thoughtful restoration of a mid-century home long abandoned here in Raleigh.
Molly and John are devoted members of their church, Edenton Street United Methodist. Molly has been involved in the women’s group there, and helped us with church-sponsored adoption parties. She’s also helped us celebrate our students who are living their dreams of going to college.
The Chiles are members of our Cassie Bright Legacy Society with a special planned gift for the benefit of children who will need our services in the future. We are grateful for their 15 years of generosity.
Newcomb and Company is known as a trusted name in heating, cooling, and plumbing. You should also know that Newcomb is a company with a heart, supporting our gala as a sponsor for the last decade.
Newcomb was founded 70 years ago here in Raleigh – and for 36 of those years, it has employed our board member Paul Thomas. Paul started out as controller of the company and worked his way to president by 2019. In his capacity, Paul has graciously shepherded Newcomb’s corporate support for our events – for which we are thankful.
Paul has been a steady, constant force on our Board of Directors since 2018 – serving on our Audit-Finance Committee and our Foundation Board. He’s also a board member at the Tammy Lynn Center here in Raleigh. He and his wife, Beth, are members of Edenton Street United Methodist Church – and supporters of our work since 1999.
Teaming Up to Open New Foster Homes
There’s no good time to be removed from your home as a child – and the holidays might be the worst. Children entering the foster care system because of abuse or neglect deserve a safe, stable place to live.
But that safe place is increasingly difficult to find amid a foster care crisis in North Carolina, where the number of licensed foster homes has dropped by more than 20% since 2021, according to data collected by Fostering Media Connections.
A new collaboration between Methodist Home for Children (MHC) and Community Care of North Carolina, Inc. (CCNC) aims to address this problem.
“In addition to working with foster families on health issues, CCNC is helping to support MHC financially, and we encourage other organizations and individuals to join us in donating to this worthy cause,” says CCNC CEO and President Tom Wroth, MD, MPH.
We cannot overstate the need for families with the heart to parent children in the foster care system, says MHC President / CEO Rev. Bruce E. Stanley, MDiv. “The recruitment of foster families is just the beginning,” Stanley says. “Our parents need training and round-the-clock support in order to care for children who have experienced deep trauma and loss. This requires time and resources.
“The timing of this support is absolutely critical. We are grateful to CCNC for walking alongside us in this important work. ”
The alignment of missions made sense for collaboration with MHC, Dr. Wroth says. “CCNC has been working with children in foster care for many years and we understand the special needs of children and youth in foster care. They often have fragmented healthcare prior to entering foster care. This, in addition to placement changes and lack of cohesion between systems, can lead to inadequate connection to a primary care provider and comprehensive care.
“Our statewide care management model allows us to address immediate medical, behavioral, and social needs through tight coordination with primary care providers and Departments of Social Services regardless of where the child is placed, Wroth says. “Collaborating with private placing agencies like Methodist Home for Children can streamline efforts and ensure children and youth get the care and services they need.”
“The season of giving is a good time to consider foster parenting – or perhaps making a donation that will help to license new foster homes in the coming year,” says Christopher Woodfin, CCNC Chief Financial Officer. “In this holiday time, we encourage others in the community to consider donating to Methodist Home for Children as they serve a vulnerable group with many needs.”
If you would like to learn about becoming a foster parent, call 919.754.3647 or visit mhfc.org/foster to submit an interest form and register for the next information session on January 17, 2024.
About Methodist Home for Children
At Methodist Home for Children, we provide safe, stable homes where children can thrive and live to their full, God-given potential. While not always traditional, an MHC home is where child and family are equipped to succeed. We build on strengths, nurturing hopes and goals, and prepare all in our care to shape their own futures.
About CCNC
From the mountains to the coast, Community Care of North Carolina staff work with local primary care physicians and diverse teams of health professionals to develop whole-person plans of care that connect people to the right local resources. For more information, see communitycarenc.org. For information on CCNC’s Foster Care Services, visit this link.
Thankful
An 18-year-old stood on the sidewalk outside her family’s new home –
And she cried.
She cried because her mom and siblings have a place to live –
No more homeless shelters and random hotel rooms.
She cried because her 4-year-old brother has childcare (on scholarship, with us!) –
And that helped her mom find a better-paying job.
She cried because of the kindness extended by people they know –
And people they may never know (that’s you).
You helped when they least expected it –
Because they didn’t know what to expect. It hadn’t always been this way.
Homelessness happened so fast. Their father canceled the lease on their home, then walked away. An accident wrecked their car. Childcare and transportation costs ate up their mom’s paycheck; little was left for housing and groceries.
And while these are adult problems to solve, it’s always the children who end up getting hurt.
Thankfully, in this case, the hurt was met with kindness. Someone cared enough to help. And one teenager was grateful to the point of tears.
Thanksgiving this year will have new meaning for her family.
Thank you for lifting them back to their feet.